Advice Request: My son is getting married this year in November for the second time. His first marriage ended abruptly after four years. I knew from the beginning it would not last. His current fiance' is the same type of girl as his first wife. I have talked to him about this and my concern about him repeating the same mistake, but to no avail. It is so hard to watch your children repeat painful lessons. Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated.
Advice: Oh Concerned Mom-how I wish I could tell you that you are wrong about this. But it appears that you have a strong intuition and an accurate read on your son’s relationship. With that being said, I cannot guarantee that things will play out exactly as I predict because people can change with their own free will. But reading the energy at present, it appears that there is some deception and unhealthy attachment/co-dependency in this relationship. The deception could be that they are deceiving themselves, but it could also be that someone or both are deceiving each other. It also seems that financial security and stability is part of the motivation to get married. It appears that this marriage will not last and separation or divorce is likely. I do see and hear blessings with this relationship as well. There is a good chance that self growth, strength and a lesson(s) learned will come from this. There is also a good chance that they will have a baby.
While you want to protect your son from heartache-these are lessons he must go through. This is a part of his soul’s plan and a soul contract between he and this partner. And, yes, we will repeat lessons until they are learned and we grow from them. It is not your responsibility (and would actually be a disservice to him) to prevent him from future heartache-because you would be preventing him from growing and learning as well. We learn best, not by others advice but from our own experiences and mistakes. If this marriage doesn’t last-trust that he will learn and grow from it. He might also learn to trust his mother’s instincts more too. Unfortunately, we cannot protect our loved ones from the life lessons they are here to learn in this lifetime. All we can do is give them unconditional love and support no matter what they are going through-and maybe a little extra love and support with “sugar on top” when they are grieving and hurting. I do see he feels a lack of support from others, so just be mindful of this and try to show him that you support his decisions as they are his to make. There is a strong message to be supportive and not to say “I told you so” when/if the marriage falls apart. The angels and our higher selves see everything as a blessing-an opportunity to learn and grow. The additional blessing could be the possibility of a grandchild for you and for your son to be a father.
Ask your angels to help you release your worries and know that their is a blessing in this situation for him and it is a part of his soul plan to experience. You are a good mother that wants to nurture and protect your son-that is admirable. There is a good chance for an even stronger bond with your son as you provide love and support with no judgement, no matter what he is going through and what decisions he makes. He will be grateful for that support. Wishing you love and peace.
Decks Consulted: Radiant Rider-Waite Tarot Deck, Wisdom of the Oracle by Colette Baron-Reid, Energy Oracle Cards by Sandra Anne Taylor, The Power of Surrender Cards by Judith Orloff, MD and The Romance Angels Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue.