My love readings are random or rather “divinely guided” because I go with the flow and the Divine lets me know when it is needed. The urge came on strong today and the message rang through so clear to me. I keep hearing this little mantra-Live and Learn, Love and Learn...Learn in Love!
This reading is for couples who are either dating, married or in a long-term committed relationship. This is a “general reading” that might not apply to you and your specific situation. Again, it seems pretty specific, but I hope you are able to take away something that resonates with your heart and soul. Also, I used a different layout for the reading so I was able to get a little peek into both partners’ views. I know I have been on both sides of this situation in relationships and I know you probably have too. Now I can share an outside perspective from a place of love, compassion and non-judgement.
It appears that both partners have taken some time away from “the relationship” to do some soul-searching and inner work. This doesn’t mean that you have separated but maybe just took some emotional/mental distance to sort some stuff out. It seems that YOU have initiated the soul-searching and your partner naturally went with the flow. They also see that you have gained some independence in the process. It appears that at one point there might have been a co-dependency (maybe the intoxication of new love or some other dependency like finances, etc) from both sides in the relationship-but it is evolving and growing-allowing for individual independence and leading to interdependence. This is a great thing.
With the soul-searching you have been doing, you have really been receiving some divine guidance through your intuition. Keep listening to your heart! Let your mind listen to your heart-it is wise and loving-it knows what is best for you and your relationship. In fact, I hate to say it but you are a wise one-I hate to say this because it does not imply that your partner isn’t. Really you have been listening to your soul and have gained some much needed knowledge and insight into what you need. This is beautiful. I also see that you are the one in control at the present time-now don’t get all power hungry and greedy with that. You are the manifester-the magician-with all the resources and knowledge you need to direct where this relationship goes. That is why it is so crucial to keep having heart-mind communication and assessing your thoughts. Your thoughts WILL create your reality, so make sure you are choosing your thoughts and not letting them run rampant off your subconscious fears, doubts and defenses. Stay mindful of your ever-running thoughts and mindset and direct them appropriately. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
I also see that you have become a little stubborn and a little ungrateful...I say “little” because I don’t want to offend you-know that I am not judging-I have been there and have empathy. There is an opportunity for teamwork here and an improvement in your relationship-so see this as an opportunity, even a blessing. Discomfort happens and chaos happens as a precursor to much needed change! You might be brewing up a battle (big or small) but I caution you to hold your battle horses! I'm seeing frustration and boredom but can you take a step back to see how you put yourself there? Remove your partner from the equation for a second. What have you done to get here? What's your responsibility? Did you set up secret expectations? You might be so upset with your partner for not giving you what you need or want...but seriously do they know, do you know and if so have you communicated that to them?
You have spent some time figuring out what is important to you and what you want-so communicate that with them. If you still don’t know, take that time to introspect and figure it out. Then keep doing it as we are always growing and our wants/needs are ever-changing. You need to know what you want and ask for it. Don’t fail the student who doesn’t have the textbook or know what the test is even on. Placing expectations on somebody without letting them know the expectations or giving them a guidebook is setting them, you and your relationship up for failure. Apologize to them for the lack of communication and let them know you are committing to communication for the sake of your relationship moving forward! It's an illusion that the grass is always greener on the other side. Your grass is green but you need to nurture it-a little TLC!
Your partner is so open and receptive to finding harmony and balance within the relationship right now...do you see that? They see you taking your time to introspect and they have taken their time to introspect as a result. It seems they are willing to do what is necessary to have harmony, stability and happiness for the both of you in this relationship. That makes me so happy to see! They are open to learning about your newfound revelations, your wants and needs. They are willing to listen and take responsibility for their end of the relationship. They just want to “simply love” and are willing to take a leap of faith with you-a fresh start-but again the ball appears to be in your court. Do you see that you have the ability to make your dreams come true in this relationship? You will need to give it a chance and communicate your feelings, your revelations, your needs and wants. If you need more time to figure these out-that is perfectly acceptable-but please communicate that to them. I see their loyalty for you and your relationship-please communicate. Also, they have had some revelations about their wants and needs-listen to them with an open heart and an open mind. Use your compassion and empathy-I know you have it!
Givers-such loving people-but such difficult people. I myself am a recovering giver. You just know what others want/need more than you know what you want/need. You naturally can read people and give them what they want/need without that person having to ask. Lovely-that makes it easy for your partner...but maybe a little annoying too. Here comes the issue-problems arise when you expect your partner to do that for you. You might be a mind/need reader, but most people are not...consider this your superpower! The downside to being a giver, is being a poor receiver and not communicating your needs...most likely not even knowing your needs. You spend so much energy reading what the other person wants that you don’t check in with what you want. Givers need to learn to communicate their needs and “receive.” Balance is so important otherwise you can oscillate between selfless to selfish. You can get so frustrated and feel so unappreciated for all you give and then get this “screw you, I’m out” attitude...am I right? You might have suppressed your feelings, wants and needs for so long that you are ready to just walk away rather than express how you feel (do the inner work to find out what you feel, want, need) and have hope for positive change. There is love here-don’t give up-it’s time for that inner work if it hasn’t already happened or the problems will repeat themselves in the future. Your partner is open to learning your needs and compromising. Balance out your giving with giving to yourself and receiving what you want/need from your partner. Figure out what you need so you can communicate those needs to your partner. Find a balance of giving/receiving always so you can finally jump off that frustrating seesaw.
Humility will go a long way-not blame! Our relationships are mirrors where self reflection and growth can take place. If we believe and subconsciously treat our partner like they are clueless or careless to our needs-then guess what-that's what we will see reflected back to us. A self fulfilling prophecy. It's time to believe that your partner wants compromise and balance and to simply love. It’s time to communicate from the heart and to take responsibility for your feelings. What do you want for this relationship? I bet you and your partner have some shared relationship goals-so talk to them from the heart and then come up with a plan. Share your goals then “teamwork” a solution-here is how I can contribute...then let them share how they can contribute to the shared goal.
The opportunity is here for you to try a loving perspective to the situation. It is easy to get wrapped up in the words that are being said. What does your heart say about this situation? It knows the truth. Trust that. Sit still, take a deep breath and ask your heart what you need to know.
Seriously, Jason Mraz’s “I Won’t Give Up” just started playing on Pandora. The Universe/Divine/God is beautiful. Listen to what it tells you-through songs, intuition, your dreams, etc.
Sending you love, hope and faith! You got this-don’t forget-you are the magician!
Decks Consulted: Psychic Tarot for the Heart by John Holland, Smith-Waite Tarot Deck Centennial Edition, Romance Angels Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue and Whispers of Love by Angela Hartfield