Hello my coupled friends! I appreciate your patience as I took some time to interpret and meditate on your love reading. This reading is for men and women who are dating, married or in a committed long-term relationship. This is a “general reading” that might not apply to all, but I hope you are able to take away something that resonates with your heart and soul.
Can I just start by saying...Oh the joy of being an empath. I literally put myself in your shoes during my readings and let me tell you what that experience was for me-maybe you can relate this to your current situation. I empathically felt a struggle and insecurities arising. Like what am I supposed to do with this information, this newfound truth? I found myself wanting to drive to Cold Stone Creamery for some comfort food-ice cream! I found myself wanting to drive to the liquor store to pick up a bottle of wine. I found myself wanting answers and a solution. I found myself getting hot and bothered. I also found that I was being just a tad bit reactive and dramatic. Can you relate? This reading seems so specific to a certain situation, I am not sure how many people will be able to relate to it...at least currently.
The road to self discovery is a lifelong process. Being in a relationship can take the road of self-discovery and enlightenment to a whole new level. In intimate relationships with others, we discover a whole new part of ourselves that we might have been suppressing. You can say or act in ways that bring your subconscious (shadow side, suppressed aspects of your personality) to the surface. You can then beat yourself up and feel guilty-like I don’t know what came over me? Forgiveness and compassion for yourself is necessary. Don’t beat yourself up-learn from your experiences. Learn the root of the insecurity. Be patient, stay with the process. This will be the making of you. It can really strengthen your relationship to speak about your feelings, your beliefs and your values. What might have originally drew you into relationship with your partner might not be what is important to you anymore-but that doesn’t mean that your relationship is in jeopardy. It’s okay if your values and beliefs have changed as you are constantly evolving and learning more about yourself. Don’t get defensive, don’t put your guard up. Let yourself be vulnerable-express your feelings, beliefs and values with love and honesty.
Be compassionate with yourself. Remember that the way you treat yourself is important, as it shows others how to treat you. Love yourself unconditionally-all of you-and expect that others will do the same. If they can’t-well that is a whole other reading. Stay present, stay patient, stay flexible and stay compassionate with yourself and your partner!
It is also important to take time to honor and acknowledge who you are and what you have accomplished with your life thus far. Be mindful of how your positive actions, compassion and understanding have made a better life for you and those around you. Reflect on what you have mastered. It is important not to under-appreciate or underestimate yourself or your accomplishments. We tend to spend too much of our energy and time on negative emotions or what we have not done. It is important to also acknowledge your partner’s accomplishments.
You have recently learned quite a bit about your true self, your values and beliefs. You have been evolving! You have probably had some profound revelations about what really matters to you in life. Your definitions of success and happiness might have changed. This might have been challenging as it is different that what you were raised to believe. When we were young, we learned from society and our parents what success, happiness and relationships meant. Add a little fantasy in the mix and we set ourselves up for disappointment and failure. That doesn’t mean that anyone was wrong, but your truth is unique to you. What works for some, doesn’t always work for others. It’s okay, consider this a clean slate as you wipe away those old beliefs. Consider this a time of learning about you and your partner. Explore these areas with an open heart and open mind and watch your relationship strengthen.
I see you are coming from a beautiful place of loyalty, devotion, cooperation, perceptiveness and compassion. Your intuition is on-point and this radiates throughout the reading. Now the challenge is to accept yourself and your partner in a compassionate and non-judgmental way. You have developed a greater understanding of life as you have done quite a bit of self-reflection in the recent past. This is a time to express your values and beliefs with your partner, compromise where you can but also stay true to your “deal-breakers.” Always remain open to forgiveness.
The challenge for you is confronting the shadow side of yourself. Learn to love and accept all of you-consider that you have a multitude of “archetypes” or “key players” inside of you and they all serve a purpose. If you choose to deny one of these characters-this character will act out like a 2-year-old having a tantrum and wanting attention. If we don’t love and accept our dark side, it can become unruly, destructive and self-sabotaging. So love and accept all of you-even what you consider the “not so pretty, let’s hide it in a closet” parts of you. Trust me, you don’t want to deal with the disaster this character can create if it is neglected.
We all have an independent spirit in us that wants freedom and adventure, as well as a spirit that desires intimacy with another. Allow yourself both freedom and intimacy. Your relationship will benefit when you have a balance of these aspects of yourself. You also need to allow your partner this same balance.
It is important to face your fears and insecurities. It is important to look at past “undesirable” actions with compassion and find out where they came from. Fear of abandonment? Fear of losing independence? Fear of…(fill in the blanks) and then take it a step further-why do I have that fear-where did that come from? Where did I learn that this means that? Understand and acknowledge motivations behind past actions. Remember there are no mistakes in life, only lessons learned. Let go of regrets and resentments and take away the wisdom gained from past perceived mistakes.
Consider yourself in a time of transition as you confront some of these fears and your dark side, again with compassion and unconditional love. Do you have a secret behavior? Why is it a secret? Is there shame and judgement attached? Do you judge your partner for their “mistakes?” Why? Is there something about their behavior that is reflected in you? Try to see these behaviors from a higher perspective and not take it personally. Talk to your partner about any behaviors they have that you don’t like. Don’t get all “judgey” with them-that will only make them guarded and defensive. Come from a place of compassion, empathy and love. Let them know how this behavior makes you feel. Talk it out with them to see if creative solutions can be found. If they don’t see a problem with this behavior, then again that is a whole other reading. The truth is that if you see this behavior as problematic, they probably do too. If you tackle it as a team, offering unconditional love and support, your relationship will strengthen.
I see great potential for healing and maturation both as an individual and as a couple. Make sure to use your intuition, follow your heart. You have the ability to balance emotion, intellect and willpower. You are committed and loyal to this relationship. Use your creativity to devise solutions that will work to any problems that you are facing. You have great inner strength, maturity and patience to face any obstacles and challenges. Again, know your deal-breakers and share them with your partner. Like that song-”you gotta know when to hold em’ and know when to fold em’.” Compromise is needed but not on your core values. Stay hopeful, optimistic and curious about your future. Maintain an open heart and open mind. Love yourself unconditionally and expect that to be reciprocated, if it is not, again that is a whole other reading and counseling might be required. I really don’t see anything that extreme happening here but this is a “general reading.”
I see that if you commit to self discovery, learning and growing, as well as, accepting your partner where they are at-while offering support in their self-discovery process-victory and success are assured. Be generous with your emotional support and know that your “ wishes” will come true.
I also see that it is time to get playful with your beloved. Bring back that youthful spirit to recapture romance in your relationship. When was the last time you had fun with your partner? Fun is a necessity, not a luxury. Playtime is essential in relationships to keep the free-spirited component of dating alive. Plan regular “date nights” with your partner and take turns creatively planning fun activities.
I also see that a “retreat” would be beneficial-a time with just you and your beloved. It’s time to disconnect from the world and get reacquainted with your feelings. Spending time alone with your beloved will renew your commitment and take it to the next level. This could mean taking a vacation, going on a nature walk, enjoying a long drive or turning off the phone and computer as you spend some much needed alone time together. The retreat card could also indicate the deepening of commitment-such as an engagement, wedding or a honeymoon. If this is the case-congratulations!
With all that being said...Cheers to you and your beloved!
Decks Consulted: Wildwood Tarot by Mark Ryan and John Matthews, Romance Angels Oracle Cards by Doreen Virtue and Soul’s Journey Lesson Cards by James Van Praagh.